如果最亲近的人想自杀，你要怎么做

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What To Do If Your Loved Ones Are Talking About Suicide

1.Don’t brush it under the carpet
不要不在意
Once your loved one starts to make remarks about ending it all, it is important to sit up and take notice. Something is terribly wrong and the subject must never be a taboo. A life is at stake here. You need to show that you have heard their cry for help. Being there means being prepared to talk about it.
当你身边有人对你说他想自杀的时候，最好还是坐下来，好好了解。
有些错事，有些话题并不是禁忌。生活中遇到了麻烦，你得表现出你已经听见了他的求救声。在他身边就得准备好说些什么。
2.Talk to them and listen attentively
仔细听、慢慢说
First, you need to give the person your full attention. Make sure you are not distracted by your cell phone. Lean forward and keep eye contact. It is important to ask about the reasons and then repeat them back. This shows you are actually listening! There is no need for any judgmental comments or cheerful platitudes, so avoid these at all costs.
首先你得表现出你全部的注意力。不要被电话干扰。身子向前倾，和他有眼神上的交流。这样会表现出你真的有听。不需要评论也不需要你说些鼓舞人的大话，所以要尽力避免这些。
3.Show empathy for them
表现出你和他有一样地感受
We show empathy rather than sympathy towards a friend or loved one who is suicidal. Someone has explained that the person has converted all the negativity in their lives into a sort of destructive and terrible self-critical “anti-self” which takes over completely. That is why they need to discover their real selves. By being close to them and giving them the support they need, we can help them along the path to survival and life.
我们应该表现出跟他们有一样的感受而不是对他们的同情有些人解释说这样的人将生活中的消极思想转变成一种严酷的自我否定。这是为什么他们得要弄清楚他们真正的秘密。接近他们、给他们必要的支持，我们能帮他们走出来，好好生活。
4.Ask about how they have coped with suicidal thoughts up to now
问问他们是如何这种思想
For many people, suicidal thoughts are nothing new. They have been over this ground many times. You could ask them how they managed to cope by not attempting suicide at various times in the past.
对于大部分人来说，有自杀的思想并不是一两天就有的。他们肯定已经考虑过多次。你可以问问他们在过去是如何应对这些事的。
5.Encourage them to recall happy moments and hope in life
鼓励他们回忆快乐的时光，对生活充满希望
You can help a loved one by helping them develop coping strategies. These may be favorite photos and other mementos of happier times. Another good strategy is to get them to make a list of reasons for living.
你可以帮助他们找到解决这些问题的方法。也许是看看最喜欢的照片或者回忆其他一些快乐的时光。另一个好办法就是让他们列出活下去的理由。